Life: My Motherhood Regrets and Yes I Have a Few
I don’t write a lot about my life because quite frankly it’s boring. But Chrissy from Dear Chrissy asked a question on Facebook that made me rethink my position and I decided to share a little bit about my journey as a mother. The first it about regrets.
Thankfully I don’t have a huge list of regrets about my tenure as a mom, but I do have some. Some were instant regrets – things I did that I was ashamed of myself for doing immediately after. Other things took time, years after the event, to realize I’d made a mistake that I would later regret.
Here’s my list of things I wish I’d have done or not done as a mom – my list of regrets.
I wish….
Big brother Brian meets his new little brother, Alex, for the first time 1/13/88
- …I would have learned how to convince without yelling and persuade without loosing my temper and certainly I should have learned to set a better example.
- …I wouldn’t have missed a Science Fair, Cub Scout meeting, concert, soccer game, Halloween, etc., because I was tired that day and begged off. I didn’t realize how few chances you really get to do those things in your lifetime.
- … we’d have gotten a dog earlier – the amount of joy he’s added to our lives is worth all the puke clean up and hassles he’s brought upon us.
- …I’d have played more with my kids. Again, that “I’m too tired,” excuse. And I was tired, I worked full time and I also worked a part-time job for 5 of those years. Plus I had some mysterious illness that caused me extreme fatigue. But I wish I’d found a way to push through it, to put playing with the kids first.
- …had quit my job sooner. I worked full-time until the kids were in high school. I made a great salary and I was too worried about being a single mom with two kids and no skills. I didn’t believe in my marriage enough to make that choice and yet we’re still happily married and in year 29.
Our family - 1992 or 1993
- …I would have made food and nutrition a priority. If I had the information I do now, then I’m sure I would have done a better job. But I gave in to the fast food for the picky eater syndrome. I wouldn’t make that mistake again.
- …I’d had more kids. I’m not ready to not have children in my daily life.
If only there was a do-over for important stuff like being a mom.
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Comments
Connie- you can borrow my kiddos anytime!
In a heartbeat! Can you mail them or do I have to pick up?
Connie, this is a gorgeous post. I think we all have moments of being “too tired” to play with the kids, but this is a great reminder of how much we will miss those moments someday. You have a lovely family, btw!
Thanks for reading reading, and thanks for introducing me to your blog!
Ah, thank you so much. My boys are 24 & 26 now and still great kids, but oh how I miss the little boys in this picture. It hurts to think about it so I try not to.
Connie
So sweet, Connie! I love it when you write about your life, I don’t find it boring at all!
You’re so sweet, thank you!
Connie